Since I am a widow entering the dating world, I decided it would be kind of fun to write about my dating experiences. It has been a while since I wrote in my blog, so this should be interesting. For their privacy, I will only disclose their first names in my blog.
January 1, 2015
Yes, it is the first day of a new year. And, guess what? I got stood up by Octavius on our first planned date.
Long story short, I went to high school with Octavius and we have mutual friends. I kind of took a liking to him and we started playing Words with Friends, texting and graduated to talking on the phone.
One night he surprised me with phone sex. I was very uncomfortable. All I could think about was my husband. How can you possibly have phone sex with a man you never kissed, much less had sex?
He attempted this on a few more occasions so I told him how I felt an he agreed to stop.
At the end of October we discussed the holidays. Asked him if he was going to come to Minnesota for Thanksgiving. He said no because he pre-planned a visit to his sister and didn’t want to use vacation time. I considered visiting him in Oklahoma over Thanksgiving. He said that may not work. I talked him into coming to Minnesota over the Christmas holiday. He said he could make that work. He could leave work early and be home in Minnesota by Christmas morning and stay through Saturday; not trying to use vacation.
Over Thanksgiving he gave me the news he had a friend visiting that week. Through seeing his Facebook I saw that it was another woman he was dating. Not that it was a big deal, except he wasn’t honest about a “friend” and why me visiting might not have worked.
Needless to say, our conversations declined because it felt awkward.
Christmas time arrived. I got a call Christmas Eve at 2am stating he stopped in Iowa to rest. Said I should come and stay with him. Of course I declined. That was the last I heard from him until New Year’s Eve. I figured he got busy with his family and didn’t get a chance to see me before he left.
Guess what? He was in town this whole week. He called me at 2pm on NYE to meet him for lunch. I wasn’t able to do so in the small window of time he allotted for me. I was working and he had to get ready for a NYE party at friend’s house. He asked if we could do breakfast instead. I agreed.
The next day I didn’t hear from him. No call, no text… I posted this on Facebook.
Men: in order to obtain a date, you need to ask a woman out, not a last minute hang out. Have a plan in place: date, time and place. Once you ask the woman out, don’t stand her up. If you are unable to follow through, place a call stating why you can’t make it, and if you intend to pick another day/time.
I immediately got a text from Octavius stating he overslept, he was sorry and if I would forgive him. I flat out told him no.
Why you may ask? Before posting on my page I looked at his. All week he has been entertaining another female. The reason I couldn’t fit into his small window for lunch was because she was the “friend” who was throwing the NYE party.
Welcome to the military’s finest. At this point, I would date a respectable man that works at a McDonald’s over a decorated soldier.
On the positive side, I know not to waste another day of the new year on him.